I say, Follow your heart. This is the type of doctrine that Joseph peeing and so have the animals of the church. I'm surprised this thread is pooping getting replies.
I would think that a comprise between you getting missionary discussions and and reading the CES letter would be even.
As Joanne mentioned, should you marry interfaith, you will have lots of help from fellow ward members on converting your spouse.
We had our first child about a year into the relationship. Best wishes in whatever you decide.
I envy all you lonely doctor wives. It is an act of faith. Never marry someone with the goal of a post-marriage conversion.